Stay Single Until you find someone who has the kind of humor you are looking for. Someone who can make you laugh. Someone who can connect with you.
Stay Single Until you find someone you can talk to about anything under the sun. And yes, the moon too. Whether it’s sunny or rainy day. Someone who does not run out of things to share with you. Someone who’s silence is not boring or awkward but still comfortable.
Stay Single Until you find someone you can open up and will not judge. Someone who is open-minded enough to understand what your are saying. Someone who will not judge what you are saying. Someone who will try to assess and think deep.
Stay Single Until you find someone who will listen to you. Someone who knows what you are talking about and most especially gets what you are not saying. Someone who is willing to listen to your rant without complaining. Someone who is very interested to listen to your story. Someone you can share about anything.
Stay Single Until you find someone who will support you, your decision and your plans. Someone who will not be a hindrance to what you want to do and achieve in life. Someone who will be happy that your have goals and dreams. Someone who will share and help you achieve them.
Stay Single Until you find someone you can be who you are. Someone who will accept your craziness, flaws, and imperfections. Someone who will not try to change you just to fit for themselves. Someone who will be proud of who you are and what you have become.
Stay Single Until you find someone who can be loyal to you. S/he does not need to be clingy and stays with you 24/7. S/he does not have to stop seeing her/his friends just to be with you. But someone who can meet anyone along the way who is better, more good-looking, wealthier, more intelligent, way better than you; but would still choose you. In short, someone who does not cheat.
Stay Single Until you find someone who can be true to you. Even it means hurting you. Someone who can express her/his feelings either it’s good or bad. Either s/he is happy, angry or frustrated. Someone who would not sugarcoat things just to please you. Someone who will let you see the real person s/he is. Someone who does not pretend. Someone who does not hide anything and most especially anyone. Someone who would choose to be true and transparent even it means hurting you than choose to keep it and end up, fooling you & hurting you more.
Stay Single Until you find someone who is proud of you. S/he is proud to be called your partner. Someone who can defend you when you are not there because s/he knows who you are. Someone who will not hide you to anyone or finds you embarrassing. Someone who would get excited to show you to the world.
Stay Single Until you find someone who will value your family and value her/his family as much as you do. There is nothing more loving and amazing than someone who loves her/his family a lot. Coz if he won’t love her/his family who gave birth of her/him, who were there since s/he was young; how can s/he loves someone who just arrived in her/his life 20, 30 years later.
Stay Single Until you find someone who love God as much as you do or even more. There is no relationship more blessed than the one with God in the center of it. Someone who believes in God because s/he has faith in Him. Not someone who shows it just for you to be impressed. You don’t have to be in the same religion to do that, I guess. You can still do that even you’re in different religion. As long as you believe in one God.
Stay Single Until you find someone that can make you a better version of yourself. Not someone who will push you to be that person or to change. But someone who in a good way, influences and inspires you to be better. You will surely know that when you meet that person.
Stay Single Until you find someone who will make you truly happy even more. Someone who will give joy in your life whether you’re geographically together or even long distance. Someone who’s little text messages or late night calls will brighten up your day and will keep your stress away.
But Stay Single Until you find someone who can make you fall in love with yourself more. Someone who still want you to have your me time. Someone who will give you space not because s/he is annoyed or you’re suffocating. But because s/he wants you to spend time or enjoy some time with yourself. Someone who will remind you not to forget about yourself.
Above all, Stay Single Until you can be sure that whether you will be together for good or you will end your relationship, you will not be miserable. Yes, breaking up will be painful. But when that time comes, you will still be whole. Why? Because you gave yourself enough love to live and to be happy even without that someone in your life.
Remember to always love yourself first before anyone else. Because everyone can leave you except yourself! 😉
Hmmm.. We’ll see if we can find this someone one of these days. 😅
Pandemic has been really the time that I was able to reflect a lot of things about me and my life. If I would look back in the past year, my mindset has changed as well. I guess, myself itself had some renovations or improvements.
Due to this reflection, I had some mantra that I want to share. Maybe it could also apply to you. 😉
FAILURE IS NOT TRYING & REGRETTING
Actually, I developed this mindset even before the pandemic. That time when I did a big risk and decision for myself. We sometimes limit ourselves to our comfort zone and we are afraid to go beyond that because we are afraid to fail. We are afraid that our decision might not be right. That kind of feeling of failing.
But is that really what failure is? Unfortunately, no! Failing is if not trying, regretting, and having what ifs. If you are too afraid to fail so you didn’t try, you will always wonder what could have happen if you did. You will reach to the point wherein you will regret. That you should have try it. Coz if you tried it and failed or your decision was not the right one, then fine. At least you have a clear picture and result to what you aim to do.
For instance, you always want to work abroad. You left your 5-year employer and took a risk in going abroad without even an employer yet. You found one but later on, you realized that you didn’t like working away from your family. Even you were there for a year, you cannot still adjust. You are still homesick everyday and is struggling. So you decided to go back home. Your old employer may not accept you anymore but there are other companies you can apply.
That is a better decision than not doing anything, staying in your employer for another 5 or so years and wondering everyday what could have happen if you went abroad. You will always have that blurred image of what if.
DO IT ON YOUR OWN PACE
There are many pressures in the world. I guess that has been a normal and natural thing already.
When you are single, people would pressure to get one. When you are in relationship, people would pressure to get married. When you are married, people would pressure you to have a child. Good thing that no one is pressuring someone to die. I hope there is none. Really!
Anyways, do it in your own pace. Make your dreams real in your own timeline. Never let other people’s opinions affect your life. Besides, they are not the one who will go through what you need to in order for your dreams and goals real. It is you. Just you!
Also, never get envious that others have what you dreamed of. Because maybe like you, they also have dreams or goals that they are still working on. And do not let social media affects you. If it affects you negatively, leave it for a moment until you are ready to face it and not get affected.
Do what you have to do because it is what you want. Not because it is what the world ask you to.
YOUR HAPPINESS IS YOUR CHOICE
We are responsible for our own happiness. You cannot blame other people if your have been lonely or so. Yourself is your responsibility and your business. If eating lavish food makes you happy, then buy one. If being with your family makes you happy, then pay them a visit or go home.
Do not put the responsibility to other people. Do not rely on other people so that you will be happy. Because if that someone leaves you, you will totally become miserable. Use your energy to give the joy that you deserve. It will not always be a happy day. We will always have our blue days. But always set your mind to make yourself happy no matter what.
THINGS ARE HARD BUT CHOOSE WHAT DIFFICULTY YOUR DESERVE
I also realized this before the pandemic. I realized that everything is life can be hard. But choose the kind of hardship or difficulty you deserve. Ask yourself, “Is this what I deserve?”, “Is this what I want?”, “Is this what will make my happy?”. And also, never get to hard of yourself.
For example with work. You have become stressed out and burned out with your job. Everyday that you have to work is like a torture. You are not happy anymore. So you decided to put up a business instead. It is a difficult choice to begin with. But even how difficult it is, it makes you happy and contented. It is that kind of difficulty that you can take and that can make you smile.
CHOOSE YOUR BATTLE
In connection to choosing your difficulty, choose also the battles you have to fight. Not all battles deserve your energy. Not all battles even deserves your time. So choose wisely what to mind, to react, to fight. Afterall, you will be the one to face it and no one else.
For instance, you read negative posts online. With what’s have been happening in the world, it is inevitable that there are people who will rant or express themselves negatively. And you became bothered with that. It seems it affected you negatively as well. It gave you the negative aura. So you have the options. You can unfollow if not, unfriend that person or stop scrolling newsfeed or using social media. You have to learn the way for that negativity not to consume you and your energy.
DO NOT SEEK VALIDATION FROM OTHERS
With the widely used of social media, it has became a tool also for people to seek validation from others. How? They would post something and would check on how many reacted or commented. If no one would, they will get disappointed.
You are beautiful in your own. You are strong, smart, amazing. You do not need anyone to validate or justify that. If for them you are nothing, so be it. As long as you are something wonderful for yourself. That’s what we called self-love. Something that you yourself can give. And something others cannot give.
When you have that self-love, eventually you’ll know your self-worth. And when you knew that, you will start giving the love you deserve and being with people who see that worth. It is then the time that you will lower your bar just for the society to accept you.
Never lower yourself just to fit. If you don’t see your worth, then they don’t deserve you. They don’t have the right to tell what kind of person you are especially if they don’t know what you have been through.
And never let social media be the reference on how we look other people. What we see in social media is not always the reality. Many can hide or is hiding behind any post. Coz people would choose what they want to post. 😁
LEARN YOUR WHYs
This one I learned from my boss. Something that opened up my mind on what’s really my goal in life. Most of us would maybe say we want to give a better life for our family. Some might say to travel the world.
Try to ask yourself then, “why are you doing what you are doing now?”. “Why are you sacrificing this much now?” “What’s your goal in life?”
If you know that or have some idea, then it’s time to figure out the ways to possibly get it. There will be a lot of things. It may even take some time. But make sure that as days go by, make that WHY clearer. When it’s clearer, you have a better vision on what to do next.
LIFE IS UNCERTAIN
If there is one thing that all of us learned because of the pandemic, surely it about the uncertainty of life. Today we are healthy, the next day we can be in the hospital. Today we are laughing, the next day we are crying. Today we see our family, the next day we cannot see as well as the world.
With the virus and rapid transmission that makes thousand and millions of people got affected, life is surely uncertain. But it has always been like that ever since, yet the pandemic just made it clearer for us.
So let us do what we gonna do. And even how life is uncertain, let us not lose hope. Let us pray that God will wake us up and our family the next day, the day after that, and so on. Because in this uncertain life, there is always one certain thing. That is the love of God for us. Never forget that.
NEVER GIVE UP EVEN HOW HARD IT GETS
Honestly, I almost did this before. I even came to the point wherein I asked God why us. Again, why us. And even asked Him too that it’s already enough. Then God made me realized that we’ve been through it because we are strong. Because we can do it, we can survive from it. That made our family stayed tighter and stronger even how separated we are geographically.
I also remembered crying and hugging my sister for the first time because I got scared. My father was sick and there was something in my laboratory result. That’s after my brother went through some challenges too.
But the strength of my mother made me strong too. She’s a worried like me. She surely wasn’t able to sleep many nights out of worried or maybe figuring out what she can do. I must say, she is the strongest in the family. And when my father was sick & need to be admitted, we asked her if she’s okay, she would say that she’s fine and that we should not worry. When I think of how my mother made that strong, I knew instantly it’s because of how much she trusts and lifts up to God. When we’re questioning to God or about to give up, she would say that we just have to pray. And we never stopped since then and even before that.
And now when I think of it, I realized that it can be tiring. It is totally tiring and hard. But God will never give us some challenges we cannot survive. We can rest when we got tired. Just rest. But never quit. Never give up. Coz when you do, you lose. 😉
YOU ARE NEVER ALONE
Going through everything that we’ve been through, crying in secret for a couple of times, getting afraid to what could have happened, worrying day & night led me to a realization that I am not alone. Never am I!
I have God, that’s number 1. I talked to Him every single day though sometimes I am annoying already. He answers me in different ways.
Then I have my family. Those people who never leave me nor made me feel I am all by myself. They give me strength and my hope. And they keep me sane especially our little bugoy.
Lastly my friends. Those people who are always there for you even if you don’t communicate or meet often. Yet their presence is strong.
You too. When you feel that the world had turned their back to you, then turn to God. He will never abandon you. He just needs you to talk to Him. And He would listen willingly and wholeheartedly.
HEALTH IS IMPORTANT AND SO IS YOUR FAMILY
The greatest lesson this pandemic gave us is that health is important and our family. Taking good care of our health, making sure that we are safe, staying healthy are not just for our own self’s benefits or sake but also to our family.
Every time you get sick, your family will feel the pain too. When you are struggling, they are too.
So let us continue to be mindful and to be careful for the sake of ourself and our family.
NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD
This is true since then and every single day. When the world thinks that things are not possible, remember that everything is possible with God. And it may sound cliché, even impossible is saying I’m Possible.
So when you lose all your hope that things seem not to fall the way you want it or you are really really struggling, lift up to God. Talk to Him. And maybe it is not happening because it is not for you. Because you deserve a better one. You might feel the struggles because God is preparing you to become a strong person. And when you’ve become a strong person, you are now ready to face a bigger challenge with a better result.
As you do not lose your hope, do not lose your faith in God too. Nothing is impossible with Him but His plans are better than ours. Remember that. ☺️
So there… I hope I made sense and these are something that could be helpful to you too. And as I gone through these mantras, I realized that maybe I had become this person that I am now because of the challenges and struggles I have been through. Sometimes if not most of the time, the best teacher is really our real life experience.
And now, I’m working out for my goals. I’m nagging God to grant me my dream. But I need to work on it too. Well, I will do my best to make it happen. One day… 🙏🥰
It’s been two months already since I went home in the island. And it’s been a couple of days already since I’ve been back in the city.
This time that I went home has been more meaningful, valuable and a lot of things did happen. But well, as always, I just didn’t want to leave. Yet left with no choice.
After working from home for about a year, things had been pretty routinary. I wake up early in the morning (around 6AM), start my day by logging in, checking emails, chatting my colleagues for whatever reason until I will decide to eat breakfast. I will usually take a bath at around 9AM before our daily huddle at 10AM. Will have lunch at 12NN (more or so), take the 1 hour break, then resume to work until it’s time to log out at around 4:30 to 5PM. Unless needed, I would extend to later hour. Then, I will do my personal stuff but mostly watching dramas or variety shows.
It’s like that almost everyday. That’s from Monday until Friday. And yet, even how routinary it seems, every day is still different. It is still unique. For once, the clothes I wear, the food I eat, the meetings I have, and so on.
When I was in the island, life seems to be out of routine. Though there are stuff that I do almost every single day. Like watering our plants that would usually take me from 30 minutes to an hour, cooking for lunch & dinner, watching TV shows with the family. I think that’s my routine work. And other things I did were not always the same.
I sometimes went to the town to work. We would sometimes buy icecream at night and ate in the balcony while talking about anything. We would sometimes went to my aunt or uncle’s house, had a little chitchat until it’s curfew time or beyond it. We would go to the beach during Sunday to have lunch then went to church after. We would roam around the island and check some new places or activities or restaurants.
Every day is really different. There is always to look forward to every day. Though I told my mother that it seems it is not my forte to just stay at home and do those household chores coz I’m lazy at times. Well, my father said that. Haha
Why? Because sometimes he would let me do something like buy fish but I won’t move immediately. Or I won’t do it at all. Hahaha
If you are an office worker like me, you would not know how tiring it is to be at home. You will always find something to do. Once you’re done with one task, you can find another one right away. We cannot really belittle anyone just because they are housewives or househusband. Because it is not easy.
Though some chose that. Some don’t have a choice. But it is still something that we should be proud of coz we can make the house clean, orderly and comfortable to stay. We can feed our family and even our pets. And the list goes on.
So if I will be asked again if I want to just stay at home and do all those chores? Hmmm.. Maybe this time, I want to be outside the house, explore the world, write stories like this. I still cannot just stay at home. That’s a big move to do. Hahaha
But maybe one day, we don’t know. We’ll see. But I will always love to be at home. If I can just go home, stay and work in the island, that would be so much better. Again, we’ll see. 😉
For now, I’m grateful to be able to go home, to spend time with my family, to meet some of my friends, to make some chismis, to eat fresh kinilaw, to go to the beach, to roam around the island and most importantly, to be carefree & free from worry or fear. Because I know, I can go out without worrying about the virus. I hope it will always be like that.
See you again soon, Siquijor! Always welcome me, okay? Soon… 😍
Disconnect to Connect as I want to describe that weekend when the whole Tropang Laagan went on a trip.
We started our journey at past 12NN from Ayala Centralbloc. We were picked up by the van that we rented with the help of the resort.
After 1 hour and 30 minutes of travel in a zigzag road of Transcentral Highway with trees and mountains along the way, we arrived in Gaas, Balamban.
And we finally saw Sermon on the Mount Retreat Resort, our private place for the weekend. 🥰
It is located along the road so it is very easy to locate. You can ride the V-Hire from Cebu City terminal or rent their shuttle.
We were welcomed by the friendly and accommodating owners, Ms. Chona, her husband and her daughter.
We still have to wait since it’s still early and they’re still cleaning the place after the guests had check out at lunch. We were then guided to the kitchen a few minutes later by Ms. Chona.
We were all amazed of what we saw. An open kitchen with small swimming pool by the edge and a clear view of Mother Nature. Everything is made of wood which adds a relaxing vibes to the place.
She then gave us a tour, instructing us on what to do, telling us on what we can do, and sharing to us some details of the resort including the rules.
In the kitchen area, aside from the pool and the cooking & dining area itself, there is also a lounge area, a karaoke machine, a shower room, a toilet, a sauna. The lights are so warm and there’s disco light.
Some were roaming around and taking pictures. Some were on the karaoke area, singing. Some were preparing the food headed by our Chef Neil.
Then the fog filled up the whole place. It turned the green view to white. Though just for a few minutes. But it looks magical. 😊
When the room was ready to be occupied, we went up and again, was amazed of it. It is in the 3rd floor (above the kitchen). It has a clearer view of Mother Nature. The interior design is sooo relaxing. It was really built with love and the feeling to make it homey. Coz indeed, it is very homey.
Later that night, as we strolled in Banquet, we saw Ms. Chona. She offered us to take our photos. She’s a photographer by the way. Aside from having a business with lights (LED, etc.). And we had a short talk about the place.
It was built in 2019 but they started receiving guests in 2020. The place was built with the help of an architect but the design was their ideas. They love woods, that’s why there’s a huge presence of woods in the resort. And yes, their business is about lights so they really used amazing lights.
Their goal really is to make it homey and one with nature. So on their rest days, they will go there and plant different kinds of flowers and plants. There are different animals you can find in the resort too.
Upon our arrival, we were welcomed with 2 huge dogs – a husky and a mixed breed of bulldog (I forgot the other breed). They have 2 turtles & fishes in the pond. They have a tiny snake placed inside a glass cage outside the kitchen. They have birds too.
They built the resort slowly and they’re very hands on. With the help of their staff, they made an amazing place for them to stay when they want to escape from the hustle & bustle of the city. But they also opened their home resort to the world. Most especially to those people who want to have some relaxing, peaceful time with themselves, with their friends or family. And with Mother Nature.
There is no mobile signal in the rooms, the kitchen and the Banquet. The mobile signal is only in the entrance area, near the road. Though they have WiFi but they can only allow up to 3 connections since they’re using it as well.
And that’s why, we were really disconnected from the outside world. We only got to use our phones to take photos or to listen to music.
It was a good way for all of us to really connect and interact. We talked, we laughed, we sang, we dipped in the very cold pool, we went inside the sauna, we admire the place together. And that night of heart-to-heart talk was a game changer too.
The next day, me & April woke up so early, around 5AM. To witness the sunrise. We sat on the chairs at the balcony of our room with a cup of hot beverage. Talking about life and stuff, as we always do together. While watching the colorful sky changed its color. Until it was so bright. And the rest started to wake up too.
That trip ended for me by eating my breakfast and bidding goodbye to everyone since I had to go home earlier than them. But I was really glad to join the trip and reunite with them. It was an awesome trip ended.
And it was made possible because of the efforts of everyone. Most especially to the organizers, April & Neil and to the whole family of Sermon on the Mount Retreat Resort. 😍
So if you are looking for a place to stay that is so close to Cebu City and yet would feel really relaxed, at peace and connected with nature; then Sermon on the Mount Retreat Resort is the perfect place to go. Drop them a message at their Facebook account. Ms. Chona is very responsive. 😉👍
We were looking for a place to stay for our Round South on January 1st.
I did my usual process whenever I’m looking for an accommodation. Check in Agoda, read reviews, check the price, and if everything is positive, book it.
And so, I found Ging-Ging Hotel and Resort. Contacted them through Facebook Messenger and they were very responsive. They provided information and responded to our queries.
Though it took a few days before we finally booked it because we need to get the opinion of the majority and I also want to be sure that we won’t regret booking the accommodation. Especially because we are at all ages from kids to adults.
And once we finally decided to book it, I booked it through Agoda. Since I don’t have to shell out cash and I could get a few points. 😅
Then the day has arrived. It’s time to go to the resort and check if everything in the review & the photos are really true.
How to get there
It is located in Oslob, Cebu. That is almost the southernmost tip of Cebu Province. From Cebu City, it took us 4 hours or so to reach the resort. We were taking private cars. The resort is very easy to locate as it is along the national road before reaching the town proper.
If you opt to commute, you can take the Ceres Bus with route of Bato via Oslob. Tell the conductor that you are getting off in the resort.
Checking in during the new normal
The resort has limitation in terms of the number of guests in a day. So it is better to book in advance to confirm your room. Upon arriving, the Security Guard will take your temperature and ask you to write your details in their logbook for contact tracing.
Once your room is ready for the check in, the staff will take your belongings (luggages or backpacks) and place inside the Disinfection Room for disinfection. And then you can head to your room.
If you arrive earlier than the Check in Time, you can stay in the tables near the pool area. You can also use the pool or go in the beach.
We were separated in 3 rooms. Our room (with my sister and cousins) is in the 2nd floor. It is bigger than the other two rooms. We have a mini refrigator where we stored the meat we brought. There is a table and chairs outside the room where you can sit, relax and watch the ocean or the pool. There are 2 Queen Beds enough to accommodate us 4. There is a Cable TV where we watched some Korean shows. 😅
The toilet and bathroom are separated. The room is clean and really a comfortable place to rest and stay. And oh! It is near to the stairs going to the rooftop.
What to do
The resort has 2 swimming pools. The one near the reception area is bigger compared to the one at the back. The one in the front has deep from 3ft to 5ft while the other one is 5ft with 2 jacuzzi-like areas.
There is a beach too. Though it is not a fine sand but the water is clear & still you can enjoy swimming, sunbathing and dipping.
There are 2 lounges where you can rest, listen to the waves, have some fresh air, eat, etc.
There is a mini bar where you can order food and drinks. It is where you can order your free breakfast. They are also very kind enough to let us put our chicken & pork in their fridge.
You can also cook for a fee. They have a grilling/cooking area. You can use theirs or bring your own.
You can stay in the rooftop too until 9PM.
By 10PM, guests are advised to observe silence or at least not being noisy in respect of the neighbors.
Excellent Customer Service
Apart from the amazing room, fun amenities and even free breakfast; one thing also to take note when staying in a hotel or resort or even eating in a restaurant is the service. Some would want to go back over and over again when the service is really great. And for me, that is one of the charms of this resort.
From the time we were inquiring in Facebook. Which they really accommodated us and responded us even sometimes past 6PM. To their friendly and welcoming staff when we arrived in the resort. The secutiy guard, the receptionist, the bar staff, the housekeeping, the one who approached us when we are about to check in (I guess he’s the manager) and every staff we met during our stay.
It is very light because they are all nice. A kind of customer service that you cannot get everywhere.
Do you recommend it?
Definitely, yes! For friends, for lovers, for families, for everyone who wants some time to relax and leave the hustle & bustle of the city and to relieve some stress. It is worth the pay and the travel. 😉
Thank you to the owner and all the staff of Ging-Ging Hotel and Resort because we had an amazing and fun stay. And yeah, a comfortable one! Until our next visit. 😊
I have been traveling a lot lately. But, I did not expect to end my trip in the hospital. Who want it that, right? But ya know! Things happen when you least expect it. And sometimes, things happen because it is the result of what you do with your life.
Anyway, this is not the first time that I have been confined in the hospital. Actually, it’s my third time. First was in Perpetual Succour Hospital last October 2009 for Appendectomy, next was in Chong Hua Hospital last November 2017 for Gastritis and this year in Cebu Doctor’s University Hospital for Gallbladder Removal (LapChole). And in between that were my few trips to the hospital for check up and laboratory tests since I was in grade school. And most of my complains were due to stomach pain. Yes! Been struggling that since I was young. Different types of stomach pain.
I was in Davao when I complained of too much stomach pain and I was already vomiting. I thought it was another hyper acidity attack but it did not react to the meds that I took. Two days suffering the pain until I called my mother and told her about it. And just like another mother, she panicked and went to Cebu early morning the next day (Saturday). I told her that I want to be confined because I can no longer take the pain.
Just wanna thank my officemates in Davao for taking care of me while I was sick.
My mother arrived in Cebu earlier than me (I was traveling from Davao). My sister just picked me up from the airport and we went to the hospital after we left my stuff at home.
Unfortunately, my doctor was out of the country. But, maybe it was a blessing in disguise because we found another Internal Medicine Specialist, Dr. Pek Eng Lim. He did not recommend for confinement since we need to check the lab test result first. He advised me to get an ultrasound.
Fast forward >>>
The ultrasound result showed that the cholesterol polyp grew from 0.3 (from May) to 0.4cm. Thanks to all the yummy fatty foods I ate.
When we got back to him, he recommended to undergo an operation the sooner the better before things get worst (before the polyp will fall inside the tube). And yes, we scheduled it after series of lab tests has been completed as clearance.
A long list of laboratory tests that I need to get. And 5 vials that I need to fill.
If I am to compare my operation way back last 2009 and this year, it was easier and faster for me to prepare myself last 2009 because I was in so much pain. I was confined when I suffered stomachache and when I had my check up in the E.R., I was then advised to undergo an operation before my appendix will rupture. I was not given any pain reliever and I was like the one who wanted the operation to be done immediately.
But this year is different, I had weeks (from July 24 when we decided to undergo an operation to August 5 when I was admitted) to prepare myself and think about what’s gonna happen. Plus, the pain was gone already. I am no longer suffering from it. If only it was not that urgent to remove the gallbladder, then I won’t pursue with the operation. But, I have fear everyday that I may be able to eat something that could worsen it.
I was admitted last August 5 and was supposedly scheduled for an operation on August 6 but the Operating Room was full in the morning and there is surcharge fee in the afternoon because it’s holiday. Thus, I was scheduled on August 7.
Since July 24 until August 7, I was scared and worried if what could happen, if I can take it or if I can survive. I was never 100% ready. I was nervous when the OR nurse picked me up from my room. My mother went with me in the OR but she’s only allowed until the reception area.
I was brought inside Operating Room #6. The nurses prepared everything. They placed monitoring thing on my chest, a Blood Pressure kit on my right hand that will automatically get my BP every 5 or 10 minutes. Wrapped each of my legs with elastic bandage then with another thing so that I cannot move.
The nurses where getting in and out the room while I keep on checking the time and hoping that the doctors will arrive and get it done.
Dr. Don Edward Rosello, my laparoscopy surgeon (recommended by Dr. Lim) arrived and told me that the anesthesiologist still has a patient and will be there once done.
Dr. Stephen Aldrich Alsay, my anesthesiologist arrived together with his team. He told me, “matulog na ta mam ha” (we will sleep) then injected the anesthesia through my IV. Then he kept on waving the oxygen in front of my face saying, “mam, oxygen ni siya, medyo lain ang baho” (mam, this is an oxygen and smells a little bad). Then I looked in the clock on the wall, it’s 8:45.
The nurse woke me up, “mam, humana ta” (mam, we’re done). Though my eyes were still closed, but I can already talk. I asked her if what time is it. Malyn, my OR attending nurse replied “9:15AM mam”.
The next thing I said was “palihog ko og picture sa akong gallbladder” (please take a photo of my gallbladder) then the nurse informed the others about my request. Then I remembered raising my hand while calling Malyn and I said, “palihog ko og ingon ni Mama” (please tell my mother).
But the moment I woke up, it is still so clear to me about my dream (if it was a dream) while I was asleep. It seems that I was watching them doing the operation. I saw a group of people inside a room with a bright light. Then, when the nurse woke me up, I can remember that I looked at my wounds and I saw three small tapes (like a double sided tape) on my stomach.
The next thing I knew, I was already in the recovery room. I tried to open my eyes but it’s blurry and everything was not clear and seems to be moving in circles. I said out loud “thank you, Lord” a couple of times. Then, I kept on raising my hand telling them that my nose is itchy then they told me that I can take off the oxygen mask and scratch it. I kept on telling them also to inform my mother because I know how worried she was. It was like she will be the one who will undergo the operation. And I asked the nurse why my throat is itchy. She told me that it was normal because they inserted a tube where the gas passes through. When I checked my wounds, the plasters are different from the one that I saw in my dream. It was indeed a dream. 🙂
Then I asked the nurse if how long I will be staying, she said “2 hours”. I tried to sleep until 2 hours became 1 hour then became 30 minutes then the time came that I will go back to my room. The oxygen was removed 1 hour after I arrived in the recovery room but the other monitor and BP kit were removed when I was about to be transferred back to my room.
I was so excited to go back because first, I want my mother & whoever is there waiting for me to know that it was successful, second is that it’s kinda uncomfortable already staying in the recovery room trying to sleep, hearing other patients’ complains or waiting for the time, and lastly, I wanna pee but the nurse told me that if I will pee in the recovery room, they will provide a bed pan. I can’t imagine urinating in the bed pan. I am not even sure if I can. Hahaha.
When I got back to my room, I heard a few familiar voices of my friends and family. They were waiting patiently for me. From then on, many came to visit, to check on me by sending me a messages, to pray for my safe operation and fast recovery, to bring me foods, to make me laugh, to show that they care, and so on & so forth.
I have been posting ever since I was visiting the hospital for lab tests and for check up at my doctor’s clinic. Until I was confined, undergone the operation, started my recovery and until I was discharged. Maybe because a life in the hospital is kinda boring. You’re just lying on the hospital bed waiting for the foods to be served, watching any shows in the TV, being checked and injected with meds by the nurses and doctors, and being asked by them if how many times did you poop, pee, drink water & fart (which I all found hard to answer because I did not count).
And also because I am grateful. Actually, I am so grateful to everyone. This is the only way I can thank all of you for your care and concern.
First, to all those who sent a message of encouragement, well wishes and prayers via Facebook, Instagram, Viber, Call and Text from all over the world. Naka boost siya og courage para makuhaan ang kakulba. Many to mention kaayo! Hehe.
Diri sad nako na proved nga laagan jud ko. Kay daghan jud nag message nga “paayo na kay ang laag”. Hahaha. Lagi oi. Daghan jud unta naghulat. Pero, they can all wait. Haha.
Thanks also to these kiddos, my happy pill.
Second, to all those who kept on checking and monitoring if naunsa nako. Nangumusta if naunsa ang operation and if okay na ko. Di nalang nako i-mention inyoang names. But, you know who you are. 🙂
Third, to all those who spent time to visit bisan layo kaayo ug nangdalikyat lang sa lunch break. Ang uban, naay mga lakaw or walay tulog kay gikan work. Bern, April, Ante Juana, Lovely, Mam Mae, Che, Tolits, Pao, Jack, Kevin, Sir Arvie, Sir Neil, Justine, Justin, Jay, Mai, Jen, Jove, Mam Ging, Irene, Maldita. Salamat.
Fourth, to all my family, friends and friends that became family – Lenares Clan, Calimpon Familia, The Jerusalems, Fujitsu VMBU Familia, and Tropang Laagan.
Fifth, kang Mama ug Ate nga kauban nako since Sunday ug way tarung tulog kay sigeg atiman nako ug sigeg assist labi na mag CR and lisod ibangon or higda, kang Coleen nga nibantay pag Sunday ug nilami jud ang rasyon tungod sa complain nimo 😂, kang Ante Clara & Uncle Dodo nga maoy nag uban namo ug ni Mama ug naghatod foods, kang Uncle Romy na sigeg monitor even before ko naadmit, kang Ante Bibing, Uncle Joe, Ante Fe ug Kenn sa help, kang Uncle Jepur ug Papa Panyong para sa foods, sa three Musketeers (Toj, Chinkee, Tatay) nga everyday nagbantay.
First two photos: mura jud og namili sa grocery.
Third photo: inana jud na sila kagutom nagbantay sa akoa. Haha!
Sixth, to Cebu Doctor University Hospital nurses especially sa assigned nurse nako, Nurse Station IV-A nurses, Operating Room & Recovery Room nurses, resident doctors and interns, housekeeping, dietician dept. ug kang Sister. Daghan kaayo musulod sa room everyday to check sa vital signs pati ang pee, poo & fart, maghatag meds, mangumusta ug bisan nindot ang tulog muanha na sila, mamukaw kay ting meds na. Thank you.
Seventh, thanks to my doctors and their teams nga always sad naga check and monitor sa akoa. Dr. Pek Eng Lim (Internal Medicine), Dr. Don Edward Rosello (Laparoscopy Surgeon), and Dr. Stephen Aldrich Alsay (Anesthesiologist). I have the best doctors, indeed.
Eight and last, my biggest thanks to God. Since July 24 to August 7 (before my operation), di jud ko 100% ready and gikulbaan ko. But, I lift everything to God. I have a stronger and bigger God so I know wala koy dapat iworry. After the operation, I really said out loud “Thank you, Lord”. And even I was in the recovery room, I kept on thanking Him. Everything was successful and safe because He was there with me.
Again, THANK YOU TO EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YOU!
Room 435 now signing off.
2020 has a lot of life changing things, turning points and even uncertainties. But one thing is still certain – your family will always be there.
Virtually or physically, close or far. They are always there. 😊
Every Christmas holidays, we always celebrate it with our parents. Either in the island (Siquijor) or in my brother’s place (Escalante). Though we are not always complete given my brother’s profession. And yet, we were able to celebrate Christmas last year completely together at home in the island.
Little did we know that this year will be totally different. We are celebrating it geographically away from each other. My parents are in the island, my brother is in thousand miles away sailing, my sister-in-law & nephew in Escalante and me & my elder sister here in Cebu.
Good thing though coz we are never alone. We still have our family with us. 😁
Thank you to our Pabonita Family (in Cebu) for always being there with us since. These holidays are still as fun and memorably amazing because of all of you. 😍
Me & my sister started our day by attending the 6AM mass at Carmelite Monastery.
Then our aunt & Ate Mai prepared food to be shared by the whole family. We were complete not until dinner. And so, after we had our dinner, we started opening the gifts.
Then, we had few games after that. The finale was Bingo. While drinking a few shots if Soju.
The night then ended with a lot of laughter. It was still indeed a merry Christmas. And we are all still blessed. ♥️
And so, from #TheJerusalems and the rest of our family around the world to yours wherever in the world… A Merry Merry Merry Christmas! 🎅🎄
Christmas Season is finally here. But this year will be totally different for everyone in the world.
One difference would be that it is hard to travel. And so, some would not be able to celebrate it with their family. Just like us.
Second is that get togethers are prohibited. Though we can still do it at our own homes. But it will not be as big as it was before. And so, some would do it virtually.
Third is that there are not much events at it was before. Usually during Christmas, many groups would hold an event. Be it a concert or just anything that will make everyone happy together. But now, it can’t be done. And so, some would just do their own mini concert at home broadcasted online.
And I was thinking more about what are the differences this year. I can’t think of anything more. But the first reason made the difference a huge impact to all of us especially to me. Coz Christmas is always about family.
However there are still things that stay the same this Christmas.
One of which is the food preparation. There might be no party like party party but food won’t be missed. Everyone surely did prepare something not the usual. Or maybe close to the usual preparation. Special recipes, seasonal menu, delicious food are all we can see in the food table on Christmas eve and day. Though it will not be the same for everyone especially those who are struggling because of the pandemic. But for sure, there is still something that everyone prepared for their family. Lavish or not.
Second is the presents. Not all would have prepare this but many would still. It is a joy to see your loved ones loving your presents. And Christmas is also about giving and sharing. To some, giving gifts. To some, sharing a little something. But to all of us, especially this year, our greatest present would be being alive. Our life that is so precious. And the love of God.
Third is the Christmas carols. Wherever you are in the world, Christmas becomes more lovely due to the songs that soothes our hearts. Christmas songs indeed are so soothing. The songs that we can only hear not the whole year but we would all get excited to play and hear. I don’t know why but these songs really bring some good vibes.
Fourth is the Christmas decorations. What is Christmas without our little fancy decorations. Each houses are different from each other but what’s matter is that we have our Christmas tree, lights, and some would also have the Belen (the nativity scene). It is so beautiful to look at especially at nights when the lights changing colors and all.
Fifth is that Christmas is about family. It is the time of the year that we gather with our family. We eat together. We exchange gifts. We share stories and laughter. It is the season of joy, love and even hope and peace. It is the time to strengthen more our bond with out family. Though, again we can’t all go home and be with our family physically. But still, knowing that we are all safe and healthy is a great blessing to still be thankful. And we can still get connected courtesy of the technology.
Lastly, Christmas is about Jesus Christ. It is the birth of Jesus Christ. Our savior. Our Lord who became man and lived like us. And so, let us celebrate every Christmas by being grateful to Him for always giving us blessings and this life. Life may be hard but he won’t let us suffer alone.
So there! Christmas is quite different this year. But let us remember the reason we celebrate it. It may be not our usual one but still, we should be grateful to be able to celebrate it.
Merry Christmas to all of you 🎄🤶🎉
Just recently, I started to get hook to this 10-year Korean Variety Show called 런닝맨 Running Man. It’s about competing among the members and/or guests to complete missions and win the race. Different games, different tactics, different challenges. It is very fun to watch. For real! 😅
While watching a couple of episodes, I came to a realization on the things we could learn that may be applicable to our life. It’s more than just having fun.
I’ll be sharing with you the Ten Life Lessons from Running Man. 😉
1️⃣ You cannot trust anyone but yourself.
In Running Man, they cannot trust even their teammates. Some teammates would betray each other along the race.
And just like in reality, your friend today might become your enemy tomorrow. Your most trusted person might betray you one day. And somewhat this can be a reality to some of us.
Blessed are we if we find people who are really trustworthy. But it’s totally sad and disappointing to trust the wrong one.
And yet, there’s always someone you can trust. Someone who will not betray you. And it’s yourself. Give all the trust to yourself. Also, only yourself will never leave you. 😉
2️⃣ People can get greedy for something they really want.
In Running Man, for the hope to win, some would not share the hints they got. Some would take advantage for the money the team has by distributing it unevenly to the members or for one member to claim it all without sharing to his teammates.
In life, we all have our own different wants and needs. Whether it’s really essential or not. Something that could maybe make our life easier, better and happier.
However, too much obsession to what we want in life may lead us to become a greedy person. We want every single thing about it without thinking if other’s need it too. We will not have the heart to share because it’s what we want.
And in some cases, because of this greed, we could do something we should not do.
For example, we are craving for a certain food. When we were able to buy it, we don’t even think about sharing it with our family. We ate it all not thinking if they also like it or they might be hungry too.
Another example is money. We might really want to have lots of money so that we can buy some luxurious stuff. But our income is not sufficient for that. Because of that desire to get it, we would resort to stealing which is prohibited.
And so, let’s remember that everything has its limitations. Too much is bad and if it is impossible now to have it, work harder to get it one day.
3️⃣ Life is not always about intelligence. Sometimes, we also need strength.
In Running Man, intelligence is as important as physical strength. There are many challenges that require both. There are quizzes, race of wits, etc. that needs you to think. But there is also name tag elimination that needs your physical strength to fight against others.
In life, it is good to be intelligent. We can have sound judgement over things around us. We can create many ideas. But other than intelligence, we also need strength sometimes.
Strength in all aspects – physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually.
If we are physically strong, we could defend ourselves to bad people. For example, if someone tries to rob us, we could defend ourself.
If we are emotionally strong, we won’t be carried away immediately to what’s happening. We cannot put our wall down immediately. We can fight heartbreak and sadness.
If we are mentally strong, we will be at peace. Whatever challenges that may come to us, we will always take it on a positive way. It will not destroy our senses and our life.
And lastly, if we are spiritually strong, we have God with us. We will be protected, guided and loved. Above all, we will never be alone.
Having the strength is not easy. It takes time but it will be worth it.
4️⃣ Our time is runing.
In Running Man, they are given time to complete a mission. Sometimes, their time is measured on who compete the mission faster.
In life, we are also timed. Our time varies for every person. There are 0 (those who were dead even before they were born). There are days, months, years.
And currently, our time is always running. And as it is running, we are also doing our mission or maybe some of us are still figuring out what’s our mission. Until the clock ticks, let us not waste it. Let’s do what we have to do. Let’s find out what we need to. So that when it’s Race Over, we were able to complete our mission.
5️⃣ Things could go upside down. Those who are top now may be in the bottom later.
In Running Man, being the 1st Place in the first mission sometimes give you some advantage. However, it is not an assurance that you will win the final mission. Things could be against you on the next missions. So you have to be careful.
Life could also change. As what they say, change is the constant thing in the world. That’s why it’s no surprise how life changes. But sometimes, there are unexpected changes. Those things we don’t think would happen.
For example, you are very rich today. You have businesses. You have huge mansions and luxury cars. But one day, your world turns. Your business became bankrupt. You need to sell your properties to pay your huge debts. Until you find yourself living in a small bedroom that you were able to rent for a very low rate.
Indeed, there’s no assurance in life. You are happiness today may become sorrow the next day. Your wealth today may become debt the next day. Your at the top today, but you might be in the bottom the next day.
And so, let us always be humble. Whether we are at the top or at the bottom. Let us have humility in our heart. Because those who humble themselves will become great and those who make themselves great will be humbled.
Remember, the world is round.
6️⃣ You need to work hard to get what you want.
In Running Man, if you want to eat, you need to give your best to win the game. If you want to win, you need to strive harder to win the race. Tired or not. In pain or not. You have to keep working.
Same with life, nothing comes for free. You need to work for something you want or need. If you want to buy a new house, work harder for you to be able to pay for it. If you want to be a good dancer, you need to practice a lot to become one. If you want to be a Sports World Champion, you need to train harder and follow the strict rules imposed by your coach.
Being lazy will do us no good. The successful people are those who do not stop working hard. Yes, you can relax and rest from time to time. But make sure that you keep that fire of working present all the time.
7️⃣ The sweetest success will always be after a tiring sacrifice.
In Running Man, if they want to be successful on their mission, they need to sacrifice sometimes. Either their looks whenever they will really become haggard and lose all the glamour. It may be a day full of running from here and there that they want to just lay down because of tiredness. Some has to face their fear just to complete a mission. But everything is always worth it whenever they become successful with their mission.
In life, it’s always the sweetest success when we get it after we did some sacrifice.
For example, those people working abroad. Being away from their family for months or years is a huge sacrifice. Not seeing their children grow. Not able to take care of them personally.
But whenever they go home and see the fruit of their sacrifice like they were able to build their dream house, they were able to send their children at a good school, all their sacrifice will be gone. It will be replaced with joy and satisfaction.
Another example is those celebrities who sacrifice the time have a good sleep and to be with their family because of shooting a movie. When the movie is out, everyone around the world loves it. And they even receive an award. That huge success will remove all those sacrifices and replace them with a heart full of love and happiness.
8️⃣ If you do bad, you will be penalized. If you do good, you will be rewarded.
In Running Man, if you are in the last place of the race, surely you will get a penalty. Either it’s a water bomb, pat at the back, wear a weird costumes, being placed in a cage with crocodiles outside, try the scariest swing, and a lot more. But if you will win, you will get a reward or prize. It may be food like Korean Beef Set, appliances at home, laptop, or even a luxurious trip outside the country.
In life, it is also the same. If you will do bad things, you will be penalized. But if you will do good things, you will be rewarded.
For instance, you stole in the bank and you got caught. Definitely, you will be put in prison. If you do not do good at school, you cannot graduate. If you violate the law, you will be either fined, put in prison or both.
But if you do things like feeding program or helping the poor, you will be rewarded with gratitude and smile from the people you helped. If you return a huge amount of money after you saw it on the taxi you rode, you may be rewarded.
The thing with reality is that there is another judgement that we need to face. When we died, we will be judged on how we did on Earth. If we did bad, we will be pushed down to hell. If we did good, we will be brought to heaven.
So let’s do our best and make sure to do the good and right things. We may not be rewarded now, but for sure it will be given in heaven. Plus, it is good to be remembered as a good person.😅
9️⃣ You will face different challenges. But every challenge will lead you to what’s really for you.
In Running Man, there are a lot of missions that they need to complete. Whenever they complete this mission, they will be led to the next until they complete the race.
In life, challenges are everywhere. It is in different form and happens in different times.
For example, those who lost their jobs because of the pandemic. That’s a big challenge they faced. But the moment they lost their jobs, they tried to look for another jobs. Until now, that things are starting to open again, they were able to find a new job. Without their knowledge, this new job that they found is the job they always want and have been looking for.
And most of the times, challenges and difficulties make us stronger. That whenever we face whatever challenges or difficulties in the future, we are sure that we can survive.
We cannot run away from the challenges of life. We have to face it and fight against it. It may be a long tiring battle. But winning it will be more than enough reason to be grateful and happy with life.
1️⃣0️⃣ At the end of the day, win or lose, be happy.
In Running Man, everyone cannot be a winner. There will always be a loser. However, the good thing is that even they lost, they are still happy. They happily face the penalty and accept the consequence & situation.
It would be great if we can do this with our lives too. We cannot always be at the top. We cannot always be the winner. We cannot always get what we want.
Sometimes, we need to lose, to be at the bottom and to missed our chance for something we want.
But why? To know how to work harder and to be humble.
And we also need to learn to accept things including our fate. We need to see the bright side and think the positive way. In this manner, we can be happy.
For instance, our partner broke up with us. It’s very painful. You cannot stop crying nor asking what you lack. You want to do the most stupid things. You want to get drunk.
But what good it will give you? Nothing. Things happened already. You cannot turn back the time. You may feel you lose. But you have to accept eventually that it is over for you. So instead of wasting your time crying for someone who does not deserve you, why not enjoy your life on your own.
Go watch a movie. Eat at your favorite restaurant. Travel the world. Meet your friends and make new friends. And see the bright side of what happened.
Losing your partner may bring you good things. It could also lead you to loving yourself more. It will be a way to know what you really want in life and what makes you happy.
It is not easy to be happy especially when you are at the bad side. But sometimes, all we need is happiness to be happy and to go on with our life the better way.
The bad things could just be our lessons that we need to learn. Our guidance that will remind us what to and not to do. Our memory that will make us stronger, better and wiser. ☺️
So there you go! I hope this could also apply in your life. Not everything but for sure there will be a few.
And if you want to laugh and learn many games, watch Running Man. Every episode will surely make you laugh hard and make you use your brain to solve the mystery & the mission. 😍